Wedding Rings

Wearing gloves and rings?

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Hmm, no one has mentioned this yet, so here goes.  My mother’s gloves (which I’m hoping to use) are the long ones that come over the elbow. On the inside side of each wrist, there’s a large opening, which is held closed with two buttons.  My mother told me that at her wedding, when it was time to exchange the rings, she opened those buttons, and slid just her hand out of the glove.  Once the ring was on, she slipped her hand back into the glove, and re-buttoned it (she may have done the re-buttoning after the ceremony).  This is what I am planning to do, although I’m somewhat unsure at this point as to whether my engagement ring will actually _fit_ under the glove — we’ll see. Beth

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As a related question…Are you supposed to take off the engagement ring during the ceremony (since the wedding band usually goes on first when you wear the two together) and if so, when do you take it off and when do you put it back on? Just curious, Heather

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> As a related question…Are you supposed to take off the > engagement ring during the ceremony (since the wedding > band usually goes on first when you wear the two together) > and if so, when do you take it off and when do you put > it back on? > Just curious, > Heather

The engagement ring is just moved to the other hand for the ceremony. -Wist ——- Double Helix and Wistful – "Always and Forever" 8/21/93

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leaving the engagement ring on or taking it off for the cerimony well, i’m not sure what is traditionally done, but i just moved my engagement ring over to my pinky.  it stayed put because my hands were all fat and sweaty (yuck!)  i didn’t even rember what to do untill one of the brides maids said, "you should move that some place elese". what ever you decide should be easy for you to do, and rember! best of luck! mrs. pamela drake august 14, 1993–DONE!

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        My best friend is getting married in May and she has found         her dream dress — ivory satin, sleeveless off the shoulder         affair with no beading or frills.  She wants to wear opera-         length (over the elbow) gloves, but she doesn’t know what to         do about her rings.  Should she wear her engagement ring         over the glove on her pinky (if it fits)?  Should her wedding         ring be made the right size and be placed on her pinky, or         should it be sized for her gloved ring finger and resized later?         To complicate the matter, she wants to wear her rings on the         correct finger during their honeymoon and there won’t be time         for resizing before they depart…         Does anyone have any experience or suggestions?  Also, any         tips on glove etiquette would be appreciated!  I don’t have         my Emily Post handy, and I’m beginning to wonder when to take         the gloves off and whether it’s appropriate to wear them for         the ceremony at all.         Thanks for any advice!         Tracy

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My husband thought it would lessen the awkwardness the glove removal process, if one of the bridesmaids helped the bride out of her clothes. Maybe do this right before the vows? Ya definately don’t want to put the ring over the gloves. Wistful ——- Double Helix and Wistful – "Always and Forever" 8/21/93

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>My husband thought it would lessen the awkwardness the glove removal >process, if one of the bridesmaids helped the bride out of her clothes.   >Maybe do this right before the vows?  

This would certainly enliven my wedding ceremony – I can just see it – right   before the vows, my bridesmaid helps me – out of my clothes – and the crowd goes wild ! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Ya definately don’t want to put the ring over the gloves. >Wistful >——- >Double Helix and Wistful – "Always and Forever" 8/21/93

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Possible solution:  Remove the ring-finger portion from the glove, starting where the engagement ring is. At the open end of the amputated peice, measure back along the "tube", a length equal to the two rings. Put in a seam or something so that this length can then be rolled up to leave just the right amount of bare skin, for the two rings. I’m not familiar enough with sewing to know what needs to be done, but there’s got to be a way to do it. Once the bride reaches the alter, she discretely removes that finger peice of the glove, which is now, in fact, a separate garment. She, or someone to whom she has handed it to, folds back/rolls back that tiny portion, and it is handed off to the groom. After the wedding band has been emplaced next to enagagement ring, the glove-finger is put back on the bride’s finger, by the groom. All one fluid motion. Depending upon how and where you’re standing(with respect to the crowd) and some practicing to do it with zero fumbling, the "hand is quicker than the eye" effect will prevail. The glove can later be restored to a single whole peice for the purpose of saving the wedding outfit. Also, instruct the videographer not to zoom in on the ring finger during the emplacement of the ring. — Alan Horowitz

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> The glove can later be restored to a single whole peice for the purpose > of saving the wedding outfit.

In this vein, maybe one could not utilize fingered gloves, but, instead, wear one of those "princess" arm pieces that go from the elbow and taper to a point at the middle finger of the hand.  There is usually an elastic loop which fits over the third finger to anchor the tip of the piece.  This gives the feeling of a gloved hand, but leaves both ring fingers free.  I have seen these "whatchamacallits" [anybody know the name?] come in both lace and satin with beautiful embroidery. Lynn [Finally "did it" on Sept. 23, 1993  ;)]

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|> In this vein, maybe one could not utilize fingered gloves, but, instead, |> wear one of those "princess" arm pieces that go from the elbow and taper to |> a point at the middle finger of the hand.  There is usually an elastic loop |> which fits over the third finger to anchor the tip of the piece.  This |> gives the feeling of a gloved hand, but leaves both ring fingers free.  I |> have seen these "whatchamacallits" [anybody know the name?] come in both |> lace and satin with beautiful embroidery. I think they are called gauntlets… Marie

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>My husband thought it would lessen the awkwardness the glove removal >process, if one of the bridesmaids helped the bride out of her clothes.  

>Maybe do this right before the vows?   … >Wistful

        now _that_ would be something to see… pretty nontraditional         wistful         geri

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> >My husband thought it would lessen the awkwardness the glove removal >process, if one of the bridesmaids helped the bride out of her clothes.   >Maybe do this right before the vows?   > … >Wistful >    now _that_ would be something to see… pretty nontraditional >    wistful >    geri

Well, ya gotta live a little.:) Still, no said if they thought it would work okay, if the bridesmaid helped the bride out of the glove.   BTW, my bridesmaids helped me in and out of my clothes and there were tons of people in and out of the room.  We had a crazy time when everyone was trying to get dresses at once and modesty was tossed out the window. Wistful p.s. I dunno. Some weddings are pretty boring so maybe a little stripping would help. ——- Double Helix and Wistful – "Always and Forever" 8/21/93

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|>   My best friend is getting married in May and she has found |>   her dream dress — ivory satin, sleeveless off the shoulder |>   affair with no beading or frills.  She wants to wear opera- |>   length (over the elbow) gloves, but she doesn’t know what to |>   do about her rings.  Should she wear her engagement ring |>   over the glove on her pinky (if it fits)?  Should her wedding |>   ring be made the right size and be placed on her pinky, or |>   should it be sized for her gloved ring finger and resized later? |>   The ring should definately be sized for her ring finger and be placed on that finger by the groom. One option is to slit the seam on the ring finger of the left glove so the groom can slip the ring on her finger while she is still wearing the glove. However, I personally don’t like this idea because in the photos, you can’t see the ring going on the finger.  Also, you have to cut the seam of the glove, which she may not want to do. I wore gloves with my wedding gown, and here’s what I did: – wore them for pictures and for walking down the aisle – slipped the gloves off discreetly during the ceremony (during one of the   readings, I think) – received my wedding band on bare hands so everyone could see it – slipped the gloves back on afterwards Note that this was a Catholic ceremony in which the bride and groom are seated on chairs at the front of the church.  This meant I was able to remove the gloves without anyone really noticing. I was also able to leave the gloves on my chair while we exchanged rings.  In some Protestant weddings, the bride and groom are not seated at all during the ceremony, so in this case, I’d probably pass the gloves to the Maid of Honour just before the ring part. — |                                                                   | |  Bell-Northern Research Ltd.                                      | |  Ottawa, Ontario, Canada           BNR is safe from my ramblings  | |                                                                   |

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*stuff deleted* >    Does anyone have any experience or suggestions?  Also, any >    tips on glove etiquette would be appreciated!  I don’t have >    my Emily Post handy, and I’m beginning to wonder when to take >    the gloves off and whether it’s appropriate to wear them for >    the ceremony at all.

    What my sister-in-law did was purchase gloves that buttoned at     the wrist, just before the ex-changing of the rings she undid     buttons and slipped her hand out of the glove… the fingers of     the glove where then pushed up in to the glove.  So, her left     hand was naked from the wrist down and her right hand was     fully gloved.   —

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