Wedding Rings

name changing

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i am korean but grew up in the states.  my family has thus accepted the weirdest of naming conventions.  to illustrate: if martha smith marries john jones, martha could be known as: – mrs. or ms. martha jones – mrs. john jones (never ms.) – MRS. or ms. martha SMITH a couple of male friends have taken their wife’s last names in cases where there are no males in her family to "carry on the name."  in my case, since i am the only son, … i propose everyone to keep their birth name, and every child given the family name of the same sex parent. (a totally new system) young — mail: po box 9483, stanford, ca 94309     tel: 415-497-9425

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>i propose everyone to keep their birth name, and every child given the >family name of the same sex parent. (a totally new system)

How about eveyone has a matronymic and a patronymic; when two people marry, he abandons his mother’s matronymic and takes his wife’s; she abandons her father’s patronymic and takes her husband’s:                             |                             |                     Ian Macgregor Cervantes and so forth.

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: >>i propose everyone to keep their birth name, and every child given the : >>family name of the same sex parent. (a totally new system) : > : >How about eveyone has a matronymic and a patronymic; when two people : >marry, he abandons his mother’s matronymic and takes his wife’s; : >she abandons her father’s patronymic and takes her husband’s: : > : >                            | : >                            | : >                    Ian Macgregor Cervantes : > : >and so forth. : : Seems as though that’s the way it’s done in some other cultures (this : is dredged up from high school memories, so don’t ask for refs.  Try : Spain, maybe.) : In Spain, when two people marry, they keep their family names, i.e. the wife doesn’t abandon her family name. The child takes the family names of the father and the mother (first, the father’s)                             |                             | Only two family names are useful, the rest is frequently forgotten //Victor. — Victor A. Villagra; DIT-ETSIT-UPM; Madrid (SPAIN)

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>Seems as though that’s the way it’s done in some other cultures (this >is dredged up from high school memories, so don’t ask for refs.  Try >Spain, maybe.)

I think the spanish system keeps the woman’s last name only for a single generation, or something like that, such that father’s names eventually supplant mother’s names.

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>>Seems as though that’s the way it’s done in some other cultures (this >is dredged up from high school memories, so don’t ask for refs.  Try >Spain, maybe.) >I think the spanish system keeps the woman’s last name only for a >single generation, or something like that, such that father’s names >eventually supplant mother’s names.

        That’s correct.                                         Lucy Diaz

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As I posted to soc.couples, I changed my last name when I married my husband because I felt it was a bonding.  I struggled with the idea, however, as I have a DMA (doctor of musical arts) from the University of Michigan, and I have a fair amount of contacts who know me as Nancy Leinonen, and who are important to keep.  I made a "compromise" in the last name — when I sing, or send a professional (i.e., educational/singing) resume, I use Nancy Leinonen Howells, unhyphonated, as a sort of unofficial middle name (though I still sign all documents Nancy A. Howells as that is my new legal name).  People caught on.  I don’t mind it.  With a name like Leinonen, it’s a pleasure to have something people can spell and pronounce! For the record, my very-old fashioned parents (my father in particular) wanted me to stay Leinonen for my "career". His parents, (particularly his mother, who is obsessed with "correctness") gets upset if I talk about using my name the way I do — and also if I take off my wedding ring when my fingers swell slightly… sheesh.. you will not please everyone — so please yourselves. Lastly, there are many instances when it is difficult or impossible for a woman to change her last name.  One is in the state of Michigan when it comes to a physician who has taken her medical board exams under her maiden name.  If she changes her name, she has to re-take the exams — stupid, sexist, but annoying and expensive enough that I wouldn’t have chnaged my name if I’d been in that situation. –Nancy Leinonen Howells

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