Wedding Rings

What are you getting your FH?

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Hey all you brides… What are you getting your FH as a present? – Jillian to Teddy 9/5/99

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We didn’t get each other anything.  We wanted to spend our money on our honeymoon, so we bought things for our house in Jamaica.  He bought me a pretty necklace that I can wear everyday (as opposed to a pearl necklace that I would never wear)!!  I recommend doing this instead of buying each other something you will hardly ever use. Kelli – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hey all you brides… > What are you getting your FH as a present? > – > Jillian to Teddy > 9/5/99

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>Hey all you brides… >What are you getting your FH as a present?

Sterling monogrammed cufflinks. Limited in use, I know, but very sentimental, and a lovely heirloom someday!  

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He is going to get a beautiful engraved gold and silver wedding band, plus me. Pattie (and Jon) 9/11/99

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> Hey all you brides… > What are you getting your FH as a present? > – > Jillian to Teddy > 9/5/99

I’m getting him a very nice 9ct gold band to wear on the third finger of his left hand, and I have a very sneaking suspision that he is getting me something similar.  I also think we have a nice romantic dinner with some close friends a family as a special treat coming up, and I get to wear a big new dress that I’ve bought specially for the occasion…. I’m also giving him the present of doing all the wedding planning, and he is giving me the present of doing all the ironing at the moment. And after the wedding, when all the budget constraints have disappeared, we’ll treat each other to Indian and Chinese and Mexican and Italian take outs on holiday, and wine and beer and all the other things that we have had to do without for the 4 months coming up to the wedding when the budget has been really tight. Far more special I feel than watches, or necklaces, or cufflinks…. 3 weeks and 1 day to go — Sharon (and Brian – 27/08/99) Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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We agreed not to get each other anything because we decided to add an additional week on our honeymoon.  :o) Brenda and Frank October 23, 1999

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> Hey all you brides… > What are you getting your FH as a present? > – > Jillian to Teddy > 9/5/99

I wasn’t planning on doing the present thing… I agree with the person who said her FH was getting a ring, her, AND a wedding organizer.  Then my FH and I were in an antique shop and he spotted a set of wineglasses that he fell in love with but didn’t buy because, of course, we have a tight budget these days.  They’re really neat, they have stars etched in them–a very popular design from the 1940s, I’m told.  Anyway, I sent my mom back to pick them up on the sly. If you bump into my FH, mum’s the word. <g> –HP Share what you know. Learn what you don’t.

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>I recommend doing this instead of buying >each other something you will hardly ever use.

I have to disagree with this, because not all presents have to be something with limited use. I am receiving a piece of jewelry from FH, either a solitaire necklace, tennis bracelet, etc. He is getting a good watch, which is something he really wants and needs (No more beat up Swiss Army watch!!! . I think when you choose to buy each other the cliched "pearl necklace" or the like, then sure, the use is limited. But you can still buy a sentimental piece of jewelry that can be used often. Just my 2 cents, Meg

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Well, our wedding is in 23 days!!  We bought a van last Friday, are moving next week, and having a wedding.  I think our gifts to each other will be beautiful gold rings as well. Although, if we *had* the money, since he’s a musician, I would buy him one of the dozen guitars that he wants. Joy – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Hey all you brides… >What are you getting your FH as a present? >- >Jillian to Teddy >9/5/99

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> >I recommend doing this instead of buying >each other something you will hardly ever use. > I have to disagree with this, because not all presents have to be something > with limited use. I am receiving a piece of jewelry from FH, either a solitaire > necklace, tennis bracelet, etc. He is getting a good watch, which is something > he really wants and needs (No more beat up Swiss Army watch!!! . I think when > you choose to buy each other the cliched "pearl necklace" or the like, then > sure, the use is limited. But you can still buy a sentimental piece of jewelry > that can be used often. > Just my 2 cents, Meg

  BUT– the only jewelry my husband wears is his wedding ring and his watch that I got him for Christmas before we were married.  What was I going to get him?  He won’t wear any other type of jewelry.  Watches also don’t last forever, no matter what kind it is.  It is hard to buy husbands jewelry items, especially when they typically don’t wear much.  How often are you going to wear a tennis bracelet or a solitaire necklace?  I wear my necklace almost everyday becasue it is more casual to fit my lifestyle, and it wasn’t expensive (about $30).  I just don’t see spending hundreds of dollars on lavish gifts for each other.  Isn’t the wedding band, honeymoon, and each other enough?  Memories will last a lifetime, but any material gift won’t. Kelli

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I am naming a star after my FH.  It is something different, and I know he’ll love it. Anyone interested in this, check out the star registry website at http://www.starregistry.com/index.html Jennifer

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>How often are you going to wear a tennis bracelet or a >solitaire necklace?  I wear my necklace almost everyday becasue it is more >casual

A solitatire necklace isn’t too extravagant for every day wear, either.They can be worn everyday, if you’re a jewelry person.  I’m not talking about a 4 carat necklace or anything. I will wear it often, if not daily. > Isn’t the wedding >band, honeymoon, and each other enough?  Memories will last a lifetime, but >any >material gift won’t.

Actually, most material gifts will. I am being given a sapphire ring that my grandfather gave my grandmother on their wedding day. I am also being given earrings that were given to my mom on hers. So, for the sake of playing devil’s advocate, material gifts do last a lifetime and can be passed on as family keepsakes. And I certainly never put that much emphasis on the gifts–the question was asked, I stated what FH & I were doing, that was it. I never said anyone should go broke buying their FH or FW gifts.I never said anyone should buy their FH jewlery. My point was that all gifts didn’t have to be useless pieces of costume jewelry or the like.Buy what you can afford or think the other would like. I happen to know what FH wants and needs, I can afford to buy it for him, and I am. I am not placing more emphasis on the gifts than the marriage. > Watches also don’t last forever, no matter >what kind it is.  

It does matter what kind they are, and they should last forever with proper care.  Just my 2 cents again, Meg

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>> Watches also don’t last forever, no matter >what kind it is.   >It does matter what kind they are, and they should last forever with proper >care.

Some people have electromagnetic charges in their bodies and destroy watches. Also, those little LCD watches that were the first digitals were made to be disposable and don’t last – even if just stored in a box in a dresser. My mom has a few of those stashed away and they are not even good enough for Goodwill. Ron Ng Knows!

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>  It is hard to buy husbands jewelry items, especially when they >typically don’t wear much.

I agree with Kelli’s statement; most men don’t wear a lot of jewelry (although I suppose some fiancees could buy their man a diamond earring!) I also see the wedding gift to each other as more of a sentimental gift, rather than something lavish (save that for those subsequent birthdays! ) I gave my husband a silver spoon made by the jeweler who did our engagement rings.  It’s handle was tube filled with water and glitter (like those ‘magic wands’ that you see in some specialty stores).  He had admired it in our jeweler’s workshop, so I later arranged to buy one from her.  I plan to get a matching one on one of our anniversaries to make it easier to serve salad. He got me a pair of jade earrings (after numerous hints) Lin

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Our reception is going to be at a warplane museum, and I’m considering getting him a ride in an authentic B17 between the wedding and the reception.  I know that he’d be ecstatic! -MVL

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* *  BUT– the only jewelry my husband wears is his wedding ring and his watch that I *got him for Christmas before we were married.  What was I going to get him?  He *won’t wear any other type of jewelry.  Watches also don’t last forever, no matter *what kind it is.  It is hard to buy husbands jewelry items, especially when they Watches last a lifetime, though. At least, the watch my mom got from her dad when he died is still working, and her dad had gotten it from his dad before him. -h. —  "So that’s 2 T-1s and a newsfeed….would you like clues with that?"  Net Access…The NSP for ISPs….The NOC that rocks around the clock.

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