Wedding Rings

Sleeveless dress in winter?

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> The >saleswoman (at RK Bridal in NYC) told me that brides wear sleeveless gowns >all year long, but can I believe her?  

     If the style is acceptable at your ceremony site (some churches are strict), and the wedding is formal, then you should be fine.  I’d be suspicious with a lighter fabric, but the heavy satin or peau de soie or whatever it is should give it a look that would be appropriate in winter. >Also, I thought of wearing long gloves to give it a bit more "covered" >look, but what do you do with the glove when it comes time to slide the >ring on your finger?  

     Long gloves could be very nice.  They’re certainly apropriate. The only question is whether or not they suit you.  If you look engulfed by the Big White Dress, it might be good to go without gloves or with short gloves to leave a bit more skin showing. (Some of us are unfortunately easily overwhelmed by gowns with a lot of presence–I wanted gloves, but had to admit they definitely didn’t look good on me.)  If you’ve got the presence for the gloves, by all means go for it!      As far as the ring goes, slit the seam of the glove on your ring finger.  You can do this so that it is unobtrusive.  Then just slip the ring on under the glove.  Don’t slip it on over the glove– it is considered improper to wear rings over gloves (plus, if the ring fits your finger properly, you’ll never fit it over the glove). I personally wouldn’t go with the fingerless gloves.  The dress you described sounds very elegant, and I just don’t think the fingerless gloves measure up.  I suppose you could remove your gloves for the ring part of the ceremony and hand them to your MOH along with your flowers, but I think this draws more attention than it’s worth, especially with long gloves, plus you’d have to get them back on somehow before the recessional. >And one more thing … What to do with the wrap?  Wear it as part of the >dress, during the ceremony?  Wear it to the site (for warmth) and take it >off before walking up the aisle?  Leave it home?  It’s pretty, and does >cover up the arms and shoulders, but I don’t want it to interfere with the >"line" of the dress or hide the pretty bodice.  

     I wouldn’t wear the wrap during the ceremony–you’ll have enough to manage without worrying about a recalcitrant wrap! Wear it outside, in transit, or whenever you’re chilly during the reception like you would any other wrap. Very best wishes, Ericka

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RE: Sleeveless dress in winter? "Bridal bare" is in vogue–the sleeveless, low-back, halter dress is in–no matter what the season. The dress that’s described here, BTW, sounds absolutely gorgeous. Remember that you will be covered in veils–which will minimize the bare look–and I would definitely suggest gloves. If the dress is silk satin, I would suggest soft, kid leather. They’re gorgeous and elegant. Also, it’s unnecessary to remove the gloves during the ceremony. For appearances sake, have your fiance put the ring on over the glove–as far as it will go. Then, afterward, remove the glove and put the ring on. As far as the wrap goes, wear it to and from the ceremony to keep you warm. It’s a great idea–not many gowns come with wraps. All the best, Deb McCoy, Author, "For the Bride" for more info, free book offer, Bride’s Directory, Gold Index, Diamond Exchange, Honeymoons and more… http://www.gate.net/~bridea2z/wedding.htm >

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hi everyone — > I made my first attempt at finding a wedding dress today.  My wedding is in > February so I don’t have much time to look around.  The dress Iiked the > most (so far) has a halter top, sleeveless (or course) and practically > backless as well.  It has a full skirt of what could be heavy silk or silk > satin (sorry, my knowledge of fabrics is practically nonexistent, but it’s > a heavy, somewhat stiff, slightly shiny fabric) — the bodice is lace over > a layer of the same fabric as the skirt.  It comes with a shawl-like wrap, > also of the same fabric.  It’s not a dress I’d wear in summer (at least not > without good airconditioning), but is it appropriate for February? The > saleswoman (at RK Bridal in NYC) told me that brides wear sleeveless gowns > all year long, but can I believe her? > Also, I thought of wearing long gloves to give it a bit more "covered" > look, but what do you do with the glove when it comes time to slide the > ring on your finger? > And one more thing … What to do with the wrap?  Wear it as part of the > dress, during the ceremony?  Wear it to the site (for warmth) and take it > off before walking up the aisle?  Leave it home?  It’s pretty, and does > cover up the arms and shoulders, but I don’t want it to interfere with the > "line" of the dress or hide the pretty bodice. > Sorry if these questions seem ignorant — I’ve not only never done this > before, I’ve never even *thought* about doing this before.  Thanks in > advance for all your advice, info, and suggestions. > Carla (happy to be marrying Bob) > 2/16/97

Carla: Is this a daytime or evening wedding?  Because the dress really sounds like it is styled like an evening gown.  If it is styled that way, I would say it’s perfectly appropriate for an evening wedding.  I wonder if you might have thought about getting a little jacket (like a cropped and fitted one) made to match the dress, which you might wear for the ceremony, if you were, for instance, getting married in a church and were concerned about the bareness of the dress in that light.  Then you could take it off for the reception.  It might also be a good way to deal with the coldness coming down the aisle.  HTH, Catherine

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Dear Carla, It is absolutely acceptable to wear a sleeveless/backless dress in February.  Regarding the wrap, I think I would only wear it for warmth to the site, not down the aisle (although winter in the northeast can be quite brutal, so it may not even be warm enough to wear the wrap outdoors.) I think the gloves are a good idea.  You may want to consider fingerless gloves to resolve the ring problem.  (You can try Caroline Amato, I think they may make them.) One last thing to consider is if you are having a religious ceremony, the sleeveless/backless dress may not be acceptable in your place of worship. Good Luck, Maria P.S. — Reed (the owner) at RK Boutique is a pleasure to deal with, coming from a manufacturing standpoint, you can’t always say that about bridal shop people — definitely a nice guy. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – >Hi everyone —   >I made my first attempt at finding a wedding dress today.  My wedding is in >February so I don’t have much time to look around.  The dress Iiked the >most (so far) has a halter top, sleeveless (or course) and practically >backless as well.  It has a full skirt of what could be heavy silk or silk >satin (sorry, my knowledge of fabrics is practically nonexistent, but it’s >a heavy, somewhat stiff, slightly shiny fabric) — the bodice is lace over >a layer of the same fabric as the skirt.  It comes with a shawl-like wrap, >also of the same fabric.  It’s not a dress I’d wear in summer (at least not >without good airconditioning), but is it appropriate for February? The >saleswoman (at RK Bridal in NYC) told me that brides wear sleeveless gowns >all year long, but can I believe her?   >Also, I thought of wearing long gloves to give it a bit more "covered" >look, but what do you do with the glove when it comes time to slide the >ring on your finger?   >And one more thing … What to do with the wrap?  Wear it as part of the >dress, during the ceremony?  Wear it to the site (for warmth) and take it >off before walking up the aisle?  Leave it home?  It’s pretty, and does >cover up the arms and shoulders, but I don’t want it to interfere with the >"line" of the dress or hide the pretty bodice.   >Sorry if these questions seem ignorant — I’ve not only never done this >before, I’ve never even *thought* about doing this before.  Thanks in >advance for all your advice, info, and suggestions.   >Carla (happy to be marrying Bob)   >2/16/97    

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Hi everyone —   I made my first attempt at finding a wedding dress today.  My wedding is in February so I don’t have much time to look around.  The dress Iiked the most (so far) has a halter top, sleeveless (or course) and practically backless as well.  It has a full skirt of what could be heavy silk or silk satin (sorry, my knowledge of fabrics is practically nonexistent, but it’s a heavy, somewhat stiff, slightly shiny fabric) — the bodice is lace over a layer of the same fabric as the skirt.  It comes with a shawl-like wrap, also of the same fabric.  It’s not a dress I’d wear in summer (at least not without good airconditioning), but is it appropriate for February? The saleswoman (at RK Bridal in NYC) told me that brides wear sleeveless gowns all year long, but can I believe her?   Also, I thought of wearing long gloves to give it a bit more "covered" look, but what do you do with the glove when it comes time to slide the ring on your finger?   And one more thing … What to do with the wrap?  Wear it as part of the dress, during the ceremony?  Wear it to the site (for warmth) and take it off before walking up the aisle?  Leave it home?  It’s pretty, and does cover up the arms and shoulders, but I don’t want it to interfere with the "line" of the dress or hide the pretty bodice.   Sorry if these questions seem ignorant — I’ve not only never done this before, I’ve never even *thought* about doing this before.  Thanks in advance for all your advice, info, and suggestions.   Carla (happy to be marrying Bob)   2/16/97    

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