Wedding Rings

engament rings w/out diamonds?

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> Try her birthstone if it is a pretty one.   My aunt has rubys > That’s such a nice idea. Here are the birthstones just to be helpful > April – Diamond

*snip* See that works out well – unless her birthday is in April. *grin* Siobhan — reply to: field valid http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/donttellmewhatsizeimustb

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You can get any stone she’s fond of.  Her birthstone perhaps? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Organization: http://groups.google.com/ > Newsgroups: alt.wedding > ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody > have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? > etc.? > Thanks, > James

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Try her birthstone if it is a pretty one.   My aunt has rubys Carrie Fitzgerald

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> Try her birthstone if it is a pretty one.   My aunt has rubys

That’s such a nice idea. Here are the birthstones just to be helpful January – Garnet February – Amethyst March – Aquamarine, bloodstone April – Diamond May – Emerald June – Pearl July – Ruby August – Sardonyx September – Sapphire October – Opal November – Topaz December – Turquoise Interestingly the sardonyx (August) represents married happiness. HTH, Rose

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> > > Try her birthstone if it is a pretty one.   My aunt has rubys > That’s such a nice idea. Here are the birthstones just to be helpful > April – Diamond > *snip* > See that works out well – unless her birthday is in April.

LOL, yes, that would be a problem! Hope it’s not! Rose

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> she might have an idea of what she likes, but i really would like to > not have to ask her — kind of ruins the surprise.

But what a terrible "surprise" if you spend a whole lot of money on something she doesn’t like & won’t really enjoy wearing for the rest of her life!  If you go that route, make sure you can exchange it easily, & don’t get hurt if she wants to return or remodel it — after all, *she* has to wear it, so she should love the style.  The majority of couples I know pick out a ring together, after the proposal. My husband & I took months to find just the right engagement rings for both of us, but it didn’t make us any less engaged during the ring-less time. If you insist on not asking her about it before hand, take a careful look at the jewelry she wears everyday. Make note of the styles, metals, & gemstones. If it wouldn’t be too much of an imposition, sneak a peek in her jewelry box. You can make this research romantic too by gently brushing her hair to the side to get a better look at her earrings or kissing her neck & staring at her necklace. Study her wardrobe — is she sporty or dressy or trendy or what? A woman who lives in jeans & tshirts might find an ornate ring w/a high setting too much trouble. If you don’t already know her tastes, now is the time to find out. –T. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . gothic martha stewart & all-around crafty chick   C7 fashion show — www.convergence7.com . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

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buy a pretty diamond ring and send me the diamond?

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you could get a ring with her birthstone…that might be a nice touch!

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> ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody > have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? > etc.? > Thanks, > James

What kind of stones does SHE like?  Finding that out would be a good start.  If we tell you to get her a sapphire and she likes garnets, we won’t be helping you at all.  Take her shopping and find out. gloria p

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> she might have an idea of what she likes, but i really would like to > not have to ask her — kind of ruins the surprise.

        You still have options.  Ask her friends and family what she likes.  Look at her personal style in clothing and other jewelry.  If friends or family have become engaged recently, listen closely when she talks about the engagement, and if you can, casually ask what she thinks about the rings involved.  Next time the topic of diamonds comes up (find a discreet way to make it come up), idly ask her what she thinks about how some women are so hung up on diamond engagement rings and then ask what she thinks they should be doing instead. Next time you’re out shopping, window shop at a cool jewelry store and see what she likes (you don’t even have to go near the rings–see what she likes in earrings or necklaces or whatever).  Is there a cultural tradition she’s particularly close to or fond of that might have a traditional wedding ring (like the Claddagh for those of Irish heritage or Celtic sympathies)?  There are a million and one ways you can work around to learning what she might like without asking her outright.  If you’re clever and take your time about it, you won’t even make her that suspicious.  And frankly, if she’s hoping you’ll pop the question someday, she’s probably very open to sharing her ideas if you give her the slightest opportunity.  That may be why she was so up front about telling you she didn’t like diamonds. Good luck, Ericka — The return address on this message works, but it goes to an account I weed out only on occasion.  To send me email, send to my first name dot my last name at home dot com and watch the spelling

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she might have an idea of what she likes, but i really would like to not have to ask her — kind of ruins the surprise.

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I knew someone who had several different colored stones on her ring and they all had significance to her and her hubby.  One was her birthstone, one was his, another stood for their wedding date, etc…  Maybe something like that will appeal to her.  But why not have her pick it out – don’t feel the onus is all on you. — Diane I. Life is good. My email account is at nyc.rr.com addressed to dti

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ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? etc.? Thanks, James

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Try blue sapphire. — Diane I. Life is good. My email account is at nyc.rr.com addressed to dti

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Since she know what kinds of stones she DOESN’T like, she should have an idea of ones she prefers.  Does she like bright colors–emeralds, rubies, sapphires? Muted ones–opals, pearls, onyx? Or does she want some other type of ring altogether? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody >have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? >etc.? >Thanks, >James

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> ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody > have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? > etc.? > Thanks, > James

http://www.jeffland.org/wedding/wedding_info/rings.htm

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> Since she know what kinds of stones she DOESN’T like, she should have an idea of > ones she prefers.  Does she like bright colors–emeralds, rubies, sapphires? > Muted ones–opals, pearls, onyx? Or does she want some other type of ring > altogether? >ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody >have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? >etc.? >Thanks, >James

This leads to another question.  Does she even want a ring? I know some women would prefer something else, like, say, title to a house. — aMAZon "It’s never too late to have a happy childhood."

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>ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody >have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? >etc.?

I like sapphires — but I guess what your girlfriend likes is more important, in this case, than what I like. If she plans to wear the ring every day, I would stay away from stones that are more fragile, like opals, pearls, turquoise, or emeralds. (I love all of these, especially emeralds, but they can crack if struck, be discolored by lotion, etc.) Your jeweler can advise you better than I can on this. If she plans to wear both the wedding band and engagement ring on the same finger, keep this in mind when you buy the engagement ring. Some styles accomodate the addition of a band more easily than others. Jeanne

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<< ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? etc.? >> Well, if she hates diamonds, then that leaves you open to all the other kinds of stones.  There is no right or wrong. If she’s open enough to express to you that she dislikes diamonds, why not get her to tell you what stones she _does_ like? That way, you’re not flying blind. Good luck, Becky

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>ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody >have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? >etc.?

As others have asked, what kind of stones does she like? If she *is* interested in other stones, you might try something like putting stones together that signify certain months. For example, my mother’s birthstone is amethyst (feb) my sister’s is peridot (aug). These two colors are beautiful together and I have a ring with both of them together. So, you might consider combining stones to represent birthdays, the month you’re getting married, the month you met, the month you got engaged. Something like that. There are lots of lovely stones that go together beautifully. ag

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pick her favorite colour and perhaps get a stone of that colour- ruby, emerald, saphire, amethist… I think it is a nice idea! JB – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody > have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? > etc.? > Thanks, > James

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Hello: Personally, I love amethyst, but as other posters said, you should really ask her what she likes. I’m not usually into superstitions but if you are, I’ve been told that opals are really bad luck. All the best to you, Tamara – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody >have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? >etc.? > As others have asked, what kind of stones > does she like? If she *is* interested in > other stones, you might try something like > putting stones together that signify certain > months. > For example, my mother’s birthstone is > amethyst (feb) my sister’s is peridot (aug). > These two colors are beautiful together and > I have a ring with both of them together. > So, you might consider combining stones > to represent birthdays, the month you’re > getting married, the month you met, the > month you got engaged. Something like > that. There are lots of lovely stones that > go together beautifully. > ag

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Or a tiny two seater 1957 Mercedes 300 SL Roadster (any color will do)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Since she know what kinds of stones she DOESN’T like, she should have an idea of > ones she prefers.  Does she like bright colors–emeralds, rubies, sapphires? > Muted ones–opals, pearls, onyx? Or does she want some other type of ring > altogether? says… > >ok, my girlfriend doesn’t like diamonds — she hates them. anybody > >have any ideas on diamond-less engagement rings? what kinds of stones? > >etc.? > >Thanks, > >James > This leads to another question.  Does she even want a ring? > I know some women would prefer something else, like, say, > title to a house. > — > aMAZon > "It’s never too late to have a happy childhood."

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