Wedding Rings

After the wedding, which ring do you put on first?

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This is a good question.  While we’re on the subject, after the ceremony, at the reception, do you put your engagement ring back on or do you leave it at home on your wedding day and just wear the band? Kristi – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hi there, > A co-worket just got married and was wondering which order most people > wear their rings. > I’ve heard arguments that the engagement ring should go on first because > she got it first.  Someone else thinks the engagement ring should go on > first because you’d be less likely to lose it if its behind another ring. > And yet another person thinks that since the engagment ring is supposed to > come off for the ceremony, the wedding band should go on first, with the > engagment ring on afterwards. > I think I’d be prone to wear it the way that I was most comfortable with, > but I was wondering if there’s any sort of tradition. > thanks, > sar. > — > please remove id. to send mail to electric

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> This is a good question.  While we’re on the subject, after the ceremony, at > the reception, do you put your engagement ring back on or do you leave it at > home on your wedding day and just wear the band?

It depends what’s more comfortable. The usual advice is to wear your engagement ring on your right hand during the wedding ceremony, then put it back on top of the wedding ring afterwards. But make sure it fits your right hand! Mine doesn’t — and it’s common for people to have larger fingers on the dominant hand. If the ring won’t fit handily on a spare finger, it might be safer and easier to leave it home. Wende

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Dawn,   I’m the same way.  Once my wedding band is on, it doesn’t come off until they pry it off my cold, dead finger Mellissa "mawaige…mawaige is what bwings us togewer today" – ‘The Princess Bride’ visit my webpage: http://users.uniserve.com/~muddles

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>This is what I’ve heard, reason being the wedding ring will now be closer to >your heart.

This is correct.  I’ve asked several jewelers and they all say wedding band first, closest to the heart.

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> A co-worket just got married and was wondering which order most people > wear their rings. > I’ve heard arguments that the engagement ring should go on first because > she got it first.  Someone else thinks the engagement ring should go on > first because you’d be less likely to lose it if its behind another ring. > And yet another person thinks that since the engagment ring is supposed to > come off for the ceremony, the wedding band should go on first, with the > engagment ring on afterwards. > I think I’d be prone to wear it the way that I was most comfortable with, > but I was wondering if there’s any sort of tradition.

You should ask the question in alt.newlywed and see how the girls wear it there. I would wear my wedding ring on first and then the engagement ring. Ruth marrying Bob on 10/9/99

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the wedding band goes closest to the heart. ~b

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – > Hi there, > A co-worket just got married and was wondering which order most people > wear their rings. > I’ve heard arguments that the engagement ring should go on first because > she got it first.  Someone else thinks the engagement ring should go on > first because you’d be less likely to lose it if its behind another ring. > And yet another person thinks that since the engagment ring is supposed to > come off for the ceremony, the wedding band should go on first, with the > engagment ring on afterwards. > I think I’d be prone to wear it the way that I was most comfortable with, > but I was wondering if there’s any sort of tradition.

I think the traditional reason for wearing the wedding ring "inside" yr engagement ring is twofold–the wedding ring is closer to yr heart this way, and the engagement ring will be the ring you lose if it were to fall off. This seems a bit out of date since most engagement rings are more valuable than wedding rings, these days! I’m a pretty untradtional gal, but I won’t buck tradition on this one. I’m wearing the wedding band on the inside, and the engagement ring on the outside. but not for any superstitious reason–just because "that’s how it’s done!" –jeniphir "All the best things about me are made of plastic!"                                –Lady Bathory VIRTUAL YARD SALE: http://www.cris.com/~jeniphir/4sale.html

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> This is a good question.  While we’re on the subject, after the ceremony, at > the reception, do you put your engagement ring back on or do you leave it at > home on your wedding day and just wear the band?

I think most brides switch it to their opposite hand on the wedding day, at least until the ceremony. When to put the engagement ring back on is still a hotly debated topic around here. If yr rings are "wrap" style, I suppose you’d give the whole shebang to the groom beforehand, to slide onto yr finger all at once. And some people have their rings soldered together, which would usually mean you wouldn’t be able to wear yr engagement ring for several days before the wedding. I’ll be wearing mine on my right hand until after the ceremony, then slipping back where it belongs later–right before the receiving line? Or whenever it occurs to me to do so. –jeniphir "All the best things about me are made of plastic!"                                –Lady Bathory VIRTUAL YARD SALE: http://www.cris.com/~jeniphir/4sale.html

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> And yet another person thinks that since the engagment ring is supposed to > come off for the ceremony, the wedding band should go on first, with the > engagment ring on afterwards.

This is what I’ve heard, reason being the wedding ring will now be closer to your heart. — While this email address is valid, I don’t check it due to spam.  Please post all replies.

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Here’s how I was always taught:  Wedding band first, then engagement ring. Here’s why: It’s to be symbolic that your wedding/committment/love should be closest to your heart, but it is also more convenient/practical that way. Like my mom before me, I don’t plan to take off the gold band [unless using power tools!  *grin*] but I won’t wear my diamond when doing icky things like kneading dough or making meatloaf or doing dishes.  By having the wedding band on first, I can just slip the diamond off and still have my wedding band on my finger. Dawn & Harry, 8/21/99 PS… I’ve heard others talking about wearing their engagement rings on the right hand for the ceremony.  Where I’m from, tradition dictates that the MOH wears the bride’s engagement ring for the ceremony and gives it back immediately following the ceremony.  I wore my cousin’s rock during her wedding last year, and she’ll be wearing mine for my ceremony next year! *just another wierd regional thing for you all to ponder*  =)

A co-worker just got married and was wondering which order most people wear their rings.  I was wondering if there’s any sort of tradition.

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: I think I’d be prone to wear it the way that I was most comfortable with, : but I was wondering if there’s any sort of tradition.         Not sure if it’s "tradition," but a lot of folks wear the wedding band first, with the engagement ring next.  The reason for this is that it is often desireable to remove the engagement ring for house and yard work so the mountings on the stone don’t get knocked around or full of gunk.  With the engagement ring on last, it can be removed without taking off the wedding band as well (which some folks don’t like to do).                                 Jill

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Hi there, A co-worket just got married and was wondering which order most people wear their rings. I’ve heard arguments that the engagement ring should go on first because she got it first.  Someone else thinks the engagement ring should go on first because you’d be less likely to lose it if its behind another ring. And yet another person thinks that since the engagment ring is supposed to come off for the ceremony, the wedding band should go on first, with the engagment ring on afterwards. I think I’d be prone to wear it the way that I was most comfortable with, but I was wondering if there’s any sort of tradition. thanks, sar. — please remove id. to send mail to electric

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